31 Biblical VirtuesTo Pray for Your Children. . .

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As parents, the time we spend praying for our children is likely the most precious of the day -- and its value is IMMEASURABLE!!! I don't think we can come close to what God expects from us as parents in this area -- especially in our society. Disruptions (especially as mothers) come on levels that we don't even recognize as "disruptions."

Many months ago, I participated in a Baby Dedication with my husband and I presented a young mother in our church a list of 31 Biblical Virtues to Pray for Your Child. After the service, another mother asked if I would share these with her.

Unfortunately, I got disrupted (I'm a mom, remember?) and I forgot to pass them on. . .

I was reminded of my absentmindedness this past week when the lady who'd asked for the list became my newest Facebook Friend. She didn't remind me -- it just occurred in one of those wide-eye'd "oh-my-goodness" moments when I saw her picture on Facebook. So, I now pass them along to her and everyone else as well. (Sorry it took so long, Rebecca!)

Pictured throughout this post are our five children:
Sharon (24),
Tim (22),
Alisa (17),
Selah (5),
and Shepard (4) .
We pray for them daily!

31 Biblical Virtues
to Pray for Your Children

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► Salvation
“Lord, let salvation spring up within my children, that they may obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus, with eternal glory.”

Isaiah 45:8
II Timothy 2:10

► Growth in Grace
“I pray that my children may grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.”

II Peter 3:18

► Love
“Grant, Lord, that my children may learn to live a life of love, through the Spirit who dwells in them.”

Galatians 5:25
Ephesians 5:2

► Honesty & Integrity
“May integrity and honesty be their virtue and their protection.”

Psalm 25:21

► Self Control
“Father, help my children not to be like many others around them, but let them be alert and self-controlled in all they do.”

I Thessalonians 5:6

► Love for God's Word
“may my children grow to find Your Word more precious than much pure gold and sweeter than honey from the comb.”

Psalm 19:10

► Justice
“God, help my children to love justice as You do and act justly in all they do.”

Psalm 11:7
Micah 6:8

► Mercy
“May my children always be merciful, just as their Father is merciful.”

Luke 6:36

► Respect (for Self, Others & Authority)
“Father, grant that my children may show proper respect to everyone, as Your Word commands.”

I Peter 2:17

► Biblical Self-Esteem
“Help my children develop a strong self-esteem that is rooted in the realization that they are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus.”

Ephesians 2:10

► Faithfulness
“Let love and faithfulness never leave my children, but bind these twin virtues around their necks and write them on the tablets of their hearts.”

Proverbs 3:3

► Courage
“May my children always be strong and courageous in their character and in their actions.”

Deuteronomy 31:6

► Purity
“Create in them a pure heart, O God, and let that purity of heart be shown in their actions.”

Psalm 51:10

► Kindness
“Lord, may my children always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.”

I Thessalonians 5:15

► Generosity
“Grant that my children may be generous and willing to share, and so lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age.”

I Timothy 6:18-19

► Peace-Loving
“Father, let my children make every effort to do what leads to peace.”

Romans 14:19

► Joy
“May my children be filled with the joy given by the Holy Spirit.”

I Thessalonians 1:6

► Perseverance
“Lord, teach my children perseverance in all they do, and help them especially to run with perseverance the race marked out for them.”

Hebrews 12:1

► Humility
“God, please cultivate in my children the ability to show true humility toward all.”

Titus 3:2

► Compassion
“Lord, please clothe my children with the virtue of compassion.”

Colossians 3:12

► Responsibility
“Grant that my children may learn responsibility, for each one should carry his own load.”

Galatians 6:5

► Contentment
“Father, teach my children the secret of being content in any and every situation, through Him who gives them strength.”

Philippians 4:12-13

► Faith
“I pray that faith will find root and grow in my children’s hearts, that by faith they may gain what has been promised to them.”

Luke 17:5-6
Hebrews 11:1-40

► A Servant's Heart
“God, please help my children develop servants’ hearts, that they may serve wholeheartedly, as if they were serving the Lord, not men.”

Ephesians 6:7

► Hope
“May the God of hope grant that my children may overflow with hope and hopefulness by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

Romans 15:13

► Willingness & Ability to Work
“Teach my children, Lord, to value work and to work at it with all their hearts, as working for the Lord, not for men.”

Colossians 3:23

► Passion of God
“Lord, please instill in my children a soul that ‘followeth hard after Thee’ (Psalm 63:8), one that clings passionately to you.”


► Self-Discipline
“Father, I pray that my children may acquire a disciplined and prudent life, doing what is right and just and fair.”

Proverbs 1:3

► Prayfulness
“Grant, Lord, that my children’s lives may be marked by prayfulness, that they may learn to pray on all occasions – allowing the Holy Spirit to intercede – with all kinds of prayers and requests.”

Ephesians 6:18

► Gratitude
“Help my children to live lives that are always overflowing with thankfulness and always giving thanks to God, the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Ephesians 5:20
Colossians 2:7

► A Heart for Missions
“Lord, please help my children to develop a desire to see Your Glory declared among the nations, Your marvelous deeds among all peoples.”

Psalm 96:3

~ Esthermay

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A Virtuous Woman. . . Prays

I am married to a wonderful man who I’ve stopped speaking to. Sure, we see each other in the morning before he leaves for the office. We pass each other when he comes home at night. I observe that he spends quality time with our children. But we don’t talk. In fact, I don’t think we’ve ever spoken, short of the time he asked me to marry him. We put on a nice appearance on Sunday mornings – you know, holding hands and smiling at each other. And of course, I’m happy with the relationship. It doesn’t require anything special from me, like an emotional investment, making an effort to please him. I’m pretty sure Mark’s happy too. He’s got so many other people to talk to and listen to and fellowship with throughout his day. But then again, I’m not sure. Like I said, we don’t talk.

Sound ridiculous? Of course it does! And I’m kidding!!! How can anyone have a fulfilling relationship, or any type of relationship for that matter, with his or her spouse if they don’t talk? But we live out that same ridiculous idea everyday that we don’t spend time in prayer. As women, we were created for fellowship. How can we fulfill that purpose without prayer? And just as my motive for talking to Mark isn’t always companionship, prayer is more than just talking to God for the purpose of fellowship. I rely on Mark for so many things. I need his help with decisions. I depend on him for emotional support. I share my worries and fears and I know that he listens intently and holds me accountable at the same time. I share my feelings of love and express my need for our relationship to grow. I ask him to do things to make our relationship better and our lives easier (like vacuuming). In order for our relationship to last, we function as “one” and the facilitator of this seamless relationship is, of course, communication.

Perhaps it’s trivial to compare the husband/wife relationship with that which God has requested of us. Or is it? Sometime in the next week, read Song of Solomon, but do so in this light: In a spiritual sense, the Song of Solomon is a very real representation of Christ and His incredible love of His bride, the Church. God wants to know us in a deep and intimate way. As a matter of fact, God desires to know us in the same intimate way that we know our spouse. No, not sexually. It’s a deep, piercing, and complete knowledge. He wants to know our needs, our wants, our struggles, and our stumbling blocks. But He also wants to know that we depend on Him completely and that we love Him. There’s’ just no way to facilitate this relationship without communication.

Putting this communication into practice is not as easy as it sounds. Praying here and there just isn’t enough to sustain a healthy relationship with God. Real prayer requires changing our lifestyle. Start with thirty minutes a day. (Yes! 30 minutes minimum.) Do it in the morning, the evening, while you’re driving, whenever. Just make sure it’s quite and that you are completely focused on God. How you pray is personal to you, but there are Biblical models for prayer. Ever hear someone say, “If you want something done right, you do it yourself”? Well, God did. It’s called the Lord’s Prayer. It’s found in both Matthew 6:9-13 and Luke 11:1-4. Memorize it and try to adapt it to your own life. You may also want to use the A.C.T.S of prayer. That’s arranging your prayer time into the following segments: Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, and Supplication (i.e. requests).

At some point, and probably without your knowledge, you’ll be carrying on conversations with God throughout the day. According to I Thessalonians 5:17, we are to “Pray without ceasing.” David wrote, “…let the heart of them rejoice that seek the LORD. Seek the LORD and his strength, seek his face continually” (I Chronicles 16:10-11). Jesus taught “that men ought always to pray, and not to faint” (Luke 18:1). The disciples gave themselves “continually to prayer, and to the ministry of the Word” (Acts 6:4).

We are to pray “everywhere” (I Timothy 2:8). You may need to pray when asked a question (Nehemiah 2:4). You are to pray in secret (Matthew 6:6). If you are a husband (men read this page too), you are to pray as the head of your family (Eph. 5:23). You are to pray in public, as King Solomon did (I Kings 8:22-53). We are to pray in Jesus name (John 14:6) because we live for Him and can do nothing without Him (John 5:17).

And there are so many things for which to pray: God’s will in our lives, daily food, forgiveness for our sins, guidance in all matters, victory over the world and the flesh and Satan (Matthew 6:9-13); the sick (James 5:13-16); all men, kings, those in authority, the salvation of sinners (I Timothy 2:1-4); the safety of self and others (Daniel 6:18-23); wisdom and understanding (I Kings 3:5-9, James 1:5-8); food, shelter, and clothing (Matthew 6:25-34); a prosperous journey (Romans 1:10); that all Christians be made perfect in Christ (Colossians 1:28); your enemies (Matthew 5:38-48), and for church leaders (I Timothy 5:17).

God has made us each unique. Our prayers are unique and our style is our own. So be creative if you’re looking to open up your prayer life. Start keeping a prayer journal and update it regularly. Use a prayer "model." For example, the Lord's Prayer - read a line, pause reflect, read the next line, etc. Or personalize and pray the Scriptures by inserting your own name or someone else’s. Start with Psalms 91 or John 3:16. Get photographs of people you would like to pray for. Do a prayer walk around your neighborhood. Do research so you can pray specifically. Cut out newspaper clippings and pray over issues - local, national and international. Ask local leaders (teachers, pastors) what and who you can pray for. Write out your prayers on pretty paper. Date it. And record answers! Be creative and be yourself.

I am married to a wonderful man whom I love -- and I will never quit talking to him. (Although some days he probably wishes I would quit talking!) In a much greater sense, we each have a wonderful God – and He wants more than anything for us to talk to Him.

- Esthermay Bentley-Goossen

(This article originally appeared in Windows - The monthly church-news and ministry newsletter of Crane Community Chapel.)

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