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The Grace Game

Written By Esthermay Bentley-Goossen on 14 March 2012



"Any concept of grace that makes us feel
more comfortable sinning
is not Biblical grace.
   
God’s grace never encourages us to live in sin,
on the contrary, it empowers us to say no to sin 
and yes to truth."
~ Randy Alcorn



And the misconceptions of grace are exposed...

                         Can I fall from grace?
                                   How much can I get away with?
                                              Is it possible to not sin at all?
                                                       What does it mean to frustrate the grace of God?
                         
I was a mischievous, headstrong child with a sensible, fun-loving mother -- a godly mother with a good sense of  humor.  I don't blame her, but I get my sarcasm from her.  And perhaps a tendency towards legalism.

It all comes back to me now...   growing up a preacher's kid. The sacred things. The silly things. The things I thought were funny -- which really weren't.  It was easy to poke fun of people whose theology of grace was not our own.  I had fun with it. I think most preacher's kids do.

We try so hard to be unlike the world that we become polished pharisees.

We had the most fun with Catholics.
They lived lives so very much unlike our own -- engaging in all the things legalists find offensive.
          Dancing.
                    Drinking.
                              Swearing.
                                        Smoking.
                                                  Other stuff...


But they went to "confession."
               And this -- of course -- made it all okay.
I think the Catholics got it wrong
Although... my legalism got it wrong too.
Two opposite ends of  a spectrum.

And so goes the grace game. 
                              A constantly swinging pendulum, 
                                                            swinging back and forth between the two.



New Idea: Being dead to sin.  It's a phrase familiar to all of us. Oh! Remember how we heard this growing up in church.  But what does it mean?


When we think of the death of someone, we immediately think of their separation from this present world. We think of their spirit being separated from their physical body and entering into eternal life.

But how does that square with the whole concept of sin? Is a Christian really completely and totally separated and forever free from the power of sin?  Isn't sin a constant battle?  After all, we do live in a fallen world surrounded by sin and sinners.  And our bodies are "flesh."  So if it is a battle, how do we deal with it?

Unfortunately, there are Christians who believe that God -- in all His glorious grace -- will forgive us.  So why not indulge in sin? It is one way to deal with the struggle and it's actually very common. But it is altogether not biblical.  Romans 6:15-22 tells us that if we do live like this, sin will enslave us,
     it will shame us,
          it will limit us,
               it will defile us,
                    it will bring corruption and death.

15What then? Are we to sin because we are not under law but under grace? By no means!
 16 Do you not know that if you present yourselves to anyone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin, which leads to death, or of obedience, which leads to righteousness?
 17But thanks be to God, that you who were once slaves of sin have become obedient from the heart to the standard of teaching to which you were committed,
 18and, having been set free from sin, have become slaves of righteousness.
 19 I am speaking in human terms, because of your natural limitations. For just as you once presented your members as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness leading to more lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves to righteousness leading to sanctification.
 20For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness.
 21But what fruit were you getting at that time from the things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death.
 22But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves of God, the fruit you get leads to sanctification and its end, eternal life.
(English Standard Version)

So even though we are a Christians trusting that God's grace will forgive us, we're unhappy, miserable, lacking joy because we cannot give way to sin without being enslaved by it.


Here's another approach... And let's just call it what it is:  LEGALISM.  Just as crazy-far from Biblical grace as the GRACE-ABUSERS that I poked fun of 40 years ago.  We attempt to handle sin by trying our dead-on best to do what we think God wants.  We throw up caution tape at every turn -- wondering if this or that counts as sin and finding that almost everything does count as sin.

We use discipline, dedication, and determined willpower to live according to "The Law." It seems like a far more suitable battle plan.  But, again, it's not biblical.

The beginning verses of Romans Chapter 7 describe what happens when we become legalists:
                    We become defensive,
                    self-righteous perfectionists,
                                                                         critical of others,
                                                                         proud of our own record.
                                                                         We become bored, 
                                                                         dull, 
                                                                         discouraged,
                                                                         depressed,
                                                                         and even despairing.

So what’s the answer? Paul’s own words reflect the dilemma:

“In my inner being, I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death?” 
~ Romans 7:22-24

Paul’s dilemma is the human dilemma. It’s every believer’s battle.

Good News:  In verse 25 we find this:

“I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin.” 

Perhaps this sounds too simple.
News: the Gospel is simple.

What verse 25 is telling us is that the sin battle is nothing more than Grace vs. Will-Power.

It is the same faith that brought us to Christ in the first place that we must rely on to separate us from sin. Every believer’s battle is won by relying on Christ and Christ alone by the indwelling of His Spirit. This is the yielding process and the beginning of sanctification....



Neither yield ye your members as instruments of 
unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, 
as those that are alive from the dead, and your members 
as instruments of righteousness unto God.
~ Romans 6:13


What does that mean? Too often we read a passage of Scripture and we believe it simply because it’s God’s Word, but we haven’t a clue what it really means. Right?

Well, when we come to the realization that within our human bodies lives an unrestrained flesh that seeks to influence us to sin, we make a choice to NOT allow the flesh control.  That’s called salvation.
STEP ONE.

The Apostle Paul is telling us that the STEP TWO is to consider the members of our bodies: hands, feet, eyes, whatever you want to refer to as a "member" of your fleshly body.  Paul calls it a body of sin. And we’re told not to yield it anymore as an instrument of unrighteousness.

Sometimes we forget what the word “yield” means. It’s not just traffic terminology. It comes from two Greek words. One word means “alongside,” and the other word means “to place yourself.”

The picture Paul is drawing here is amazing! Paul is saying, “Don’t keep putting yourself in a position where you can be overpowered by the flesh. It’s just waiting for you to do that. Don’t keep yielding yourself. Don’t keep putting yourself “alongside” that kind of thing.

 (*That thing could be gossip, unwholesome entertainment,
non-Christian friends who negatively influence us,
alcohol, television, pornography, 
you fill-in-the-blank _______.) 

Instead of yielding ourselves to *that, instead of accommodating the flesh, Paul says accommodate God: Yield yourselves to God. That’s how He replaces our unrighteousness with His Righteousness.

Here's the neat part:  That word “yield” is aorist active imperative. That means that --  grammatically speaking -- it's a command!  The aorist tense means DO IT!   Just do it!

If you’re saved – you need to train your senses to line up under Christ. Accommodate yourself to Christ. Put yourself where you can be influenced by the Spirit of God and not by the flesh. 

What does that mean for you?

For this recovering legalist...

God's grace is not a game.
It is my teacher.

 
For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all...  
Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, 
we should live soberly, righteously, 
and godly, in this present world.
~ Titus 2:11-12

~ Esthermay V. Bentley-Goossen
© 2012 The Heart of a Pastor’s Wife
 
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GOD's Will vs. Human Will . . .A Complete Mess of Conflicting Wills

Written By Esthermay Bentley-Goossen on 30 November 2010


"There are two kinds of people: those who say to God,
"
Thy will be done," and those to whom God says,
"
All right, then, have it your way”.
~ C.S. Lewis

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Blessing: The Mystery of its Meaning . . .

Written By Esthermay Bentley-Goossen on 12 January 2010


"God can pour on the blessings in astonishing ways."
~ 2 Corinthians 9:9 (The Message)

So what precisely is a blessing? Is it a reward? Is it a miracle? According to Scripture, what exactly does it mean to be blessed by God? And should it be a mystery to us?

There are numerous Hebrew and Greek words throughout Scripture which when translated mean bless, blessed or blessing. Viewed collectively they mean "to declare happy, to speak well of, very happy.

Lamentably, popular Christianity has twisted the concept of being blessed by God to mean something entirely different than what God intended. Way too many Christians have readily bought into the lie that to be blessed is to enjoy material favor with God as a result of faith. And the avenue by which these blessings reach us can be surprising, unsuspecting, even magical.

If we follow this logic, then the wealth gained by way of Wall-Street is a blessing. Right?
Why are the results of a person's free will classified as sinful greed in one case,
and as a blessing in another?
The logic is flawed.
The mystery remains. . .

Much of the heart of New Testament Christianity has been completely corrupted in the pursuit of being blessed. Too many teachers and preachers have taken the focus off of sound doctrine and true worship and placed it instead to the idea of being blessed with things, stuff, money, bigger buildings, larger ministries -- which even non-believers know cannot bring real happiness.

The [wrong] thinking is that if God loves you and you are in His will, you exercise faith, and His favor rests upon you, then He will bless you with a lot of extra things above and beyond what you'd have if you were just an ordinary believer. And we've fooled ourselves into thinking that if we do have some material wealth, it was God who blessed us with it.

This is not what the Bible teaches. What is a blessing? And is it a result of faith?
Herein lies the mystery.

Hebrews Chapter 11 is often called the "Hall of Faith" It is the Scriptural record of those individuals throughout biblical history who had great faith. The examples we find here are a roadmap -- a guide -- to understanding true faith and the result of that faith. Look at verses 36-40:

Some faced jeers and flogging, while still others were chained and put in prison. They were stoned; they were sawed in two; they were put to death by the sword. They went about in sheepskins and goatskins, destitute, persecuted and mistreated -- the world was not worthy of them. They wandered in deserts and mountains, and in caves and holes in the ground. These were all commended for their faith, yet none of them received what had been promised. God had planned something better for us so that only together with us would they be made perfect.

Wow! Where are the "astonishing" blessings here??!
. . . Certainly doesn't match the depiction of being
blessed as taught by Benny Hinn,
Paula White, Joel Osteen or a host of others.

Even well-intended Christians have tainted the notion of being blessed by God to mean something other than simply enjoying what God has intended.

What did God intend? What is God's idea of a blessing?

Behold, children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward.
~Psalm 127:3

[Esau] lifted his eyes and saw the women and children, and said, "Who are these with you?" So he said, "The children whom God has graciously given your servant."
~Genesis 33:5

Joseph said to his father, "They are my sons, whom God has given me here." So he said, "Bring them to me, please, that I may bless them."
~Genesis 48:9

God blessed them; and God said to them,
"Be fruitful and multiply..."
~Genesis 1:28

For I will have respect unto you, and make you fruitful, and multiply you, and establish my covenant with you.
~Leviticus 26:9


The Lord blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning and. . . he had seven sons and three daughters." Job 42:12-13


Now the time had come for Elizabeth to give birth and she gave birth to a son. Her neighbors and her relatives heard that the Lord had displayed his great mercy toward her
and they were rejoicing with her.
Luke 1:58

And as Eugene Peterson puts it in The Message, God can and does pour out His blessings in "astonishing" ways. Revisit Genesis Chapter 12 where the Lord told Abram:

"I will make you into a great nation and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse;
an
d all peoples on earth will be blessed through you."
Genesis 12:3-2

. . . and how did God do this?
Yes. . . By way of the blessing him with children. Many of them!
Culminating in the lineage of JESUS CHRIST! (Matthew 1:1-16)

The idea of being blessed with children as emphasized over and over in Scripture is one of the most overlooked lessons in God's Word. The family is no longer considered a blessing by today's standards. Christians no longer guard their families at all costs. We see children as a nuisance instead of gifts from God. Children are often a burden, not a joy. We complain about the cost of raising them. Mothers complain that children are a hindrance to their career. Dad's lament that children are a drain on the finances. Children often become trophies for soccer moms and dads who have to keep up appearances. And the number of women choosing to kill God's blessing of a child is approaching 50 million since 1973.

Yet, when the parent or family burdened by
[the blessing of] children receives an unexpected
check or materialistic serendipity, they call it a blessing.
That's backwards thinking!
This must be a mystery to God.

And lest you believe I've concluded the only blessing of the Bible is children, lets look at some more:

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms
with every spiritual blessing in Christ. For he chose us in him before the creation
of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight.
~Ephesians 1:3-4

Blessed be the Lord, who daily loadeth us with benefits, even the God of our salvation. Selah.
~Psalm 68:19

Are we to assume that God is going to bless us in any materialistic way (either personally or as a society) when we've chosen to ignore the biblical definition of blessing??

God can pour on the blessings in astonishing ways.
~ 2 Corinthians 9:9 (The Message)

I like Eugene Peterson's Message; and in context is a wonderful story of redemption
beginning in Genesis all the way through to Revelation. But as with any translation
of the Bible, a single verse set aside as a lesson can be seriously misinterpreted.
Take time to read the full text of 2 Corinthians 9:6-9 in the NIV or KJV
and see if you have the same impression of the term "blessing. "

Let's just not be so nearsighted
that we misunderstand what a blessing really is. Joel Osteen is absolutely right in saying that the Gospel promises our "best life now." He’s just utterly and thoroughly mistaken on what the form of that life is.

Throughout the Bible we come to understand the theme of redemption and that Jesus was God’s blessing to us -- sent as a child to live among us and He alone is the example, shape, description and picture of our "best life. . . ."

For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto,
but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.

~Mark 10:45

But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.
~I Timothy 6:6-8

Mystery solved!

~~*~*~*~~

I asked God for strength that I might achieve.

I was made weak that I might learn humbly to obey.
I asked for health that I might do greater things.
I was given infirmity that I might do better things.
I asked for riches that I might be happy.
I was given poverty that I might be wise.
I asked for power that I might have the praise of men.
I was given weakness that I might feel the need of God.
I asked for all things that I might enjoy life.
I was given life that I might enjoy all things.
I got nothing that I asked for, but everything I hoped for.
Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered.
I am, among all men, most richly BLESSED.

~The Prayer of an Unknown Confederate Soldier

~ Esthermay V. Bentley-Goossen
© 2010 The Heart of a Pastor's Wife
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